Choosing the right man for your children

As women, it's crucial to thoughtfully select our life partner, keeping in mind the impact this decision will have on our children. We should establish a list of essential qualities that we cannot compromise on when choosing a partner. It's vital to find a man who possesses the traits of a good father.

For me, a good father is someone who:

• Places God at the center of his family and leads with love.

• Prioritizes his wife and children above all else.

• Treats their mother with respect and care, fostering a harmonious home environment. This is particularly important for nurturing their emotional intelligence and personal growth during their formative years.

• Instills a sense of security, rather than fear, in his children.

• Works hard to provide for his family.

• Demonstrates kindness to both his children and their mother.

  
  

These qualities are essential.

These are just a few examples. You need to add some of your own non-negotiables and remember that your children can't choose their father- it's all on you.

Let me be clear on this, it's impossible for a man to genuinely love their children while intentionally causing harm to their mother. A mother deserves to experience peace, safety, love, respect, care, understanding, patience, compassion, kindness and trust. THAT'S when the children will get the best version of her. The version they NEED.

When a man causes her pain, do you truly think the children are getting the best version of her to ensure their happiness? What kind of mindset leads a man to believe they can weaken a child's main source of security and comfort while professing to love them? Absolutely not. That's simply not acceptable! But unfortunately, there are so many men out there who refuse to see value in their partners.

So, as a woman it is essential to be very careful about whom we decide to share our lives and children with.